Tuesday, September 18, 2007


The Kallah (bride) and Chatan (groom) traditionally fast for 24 hours before the wedding and restrain themselves from seeing each other for 1 week prior to the ceremony. Michaels father will be officating. We have designated an area of the garden that has a pergola that will function as the Chuppah which symbolizes the home - open on all sides as to invite community and a covering that symbolizes the covering of God's love and grace. Both the bride and groom will be escoted to under the Chuppah by their father and mother. The mothers will break a plate symbolizing the broken relationship between the home of the original family. The breaking of the glass by the groom is to signify that just as broken glass is never able to be completely repaired, neither is a broken marriage. This is to instill accountability for the committment vows. These vows are in the form of a Drashala - or charge of challenge committments to each other and God. The reading and signing of the Ketubah (marriage contract) is done before the ceremony. Callie would like the Ketubah to be designed by her sister Rachelle who is an artist. The ceremony will end with an announcement and blowing of the Shofar (Ram's horn). Of course there are many other elements to consider, but this is a sneek preview into the event slated for June 28, 2008.


Callie and I had our weekly meeting to work on her redesigned gown for Day 1 of the celebration. There was more deconstruction and need for more fabric. A great amount of energy was given to locate a wholesale fabric vendor in the US to purchase peacesilk, milk fabric, soy fabric, seacell, hemp satin, stretch bamboo, and various other vegetable fabric products. However, access to these items is prohibitive. Either the supplier websites couldn't be accessed, samples were costly and time consuming to receive, and the cost of the fabrics were prohibitive. Linda Loudermilk is an amazing designer who uses only eco-friendly fabrics, but the generic designer..... is held at bay. These products seem to be available only to those who have connections. We finally decided to go to the local second hand store and find previously loved gowns, drapery sheers, and fabric pieces to move forward with the morphodesign process. Fortunately, we found a gown of the same vintage, color, and textures as well as a piece of fabric to add as an accent. Once again we pulled out the seam rippers and our problem solving skills to progress with our textile architecture.

We are still trying to locate a baker who will make and "organic" cheesecake that tastes wonderful and willing to be creative with design elements. We sampled a local baker to save on travel CO2 emissions, but after sampling the cakes, we decided the vendor wouldn't work for us. We have located another baker in a small town nearby. This business is willing to have us purchase the "organic" products needed to prepare our cheesecake. We still need to sample the cakes and make design requests.

It was time to talk about the menu for day one so we can decide on food catering etc. The Messianic/Christian wedding will take place at sunset. Our guests will arrive at 7:30 for organic/fair trade wine, appetizers and fruit while mingling under a canapy in the front gardens. At 8:15 the guests will be directed into the back yard covered under a large tent and seating for the 8:35 PM ceremony. At the end of the ceremony the bride and groom will go to a quiet room to spend their first moments alone as a couple. During this time the guests will be seated for a light sit-down meal of a specially designed salad with greens, creamy soup, and grain bread formed in the shape of a Challah so that knives (non-violent) will not be necessary. The highlight of the evening will be the dessert table with an amazing cheesecake with a side of fresh fruit, a variety of handmade chocolate truffles, and fairtrade coffee/tea.

We have found a wonderful site that has affordable bannana, mango, and coffee papers (ecopaper.com). We even found a site that sells stationary made of elephant dung (probably won't use). Callie also discussed setting up a website that allows our guests to access which will provide directions to the ceremony, RSVP, suggestions for renting "green cars", use of train etc. and bridal registry/donation to ethical/conscious organizations in order to cut maintain eco-ethics. Our home residence is currently using alternative energy sources through the local WE Energies in keeping with our eco-conscious attitudes.